Why Do Latinos Cheat So Much?

You don’t have to be in Latin America long to realize that there’s a cheating bonanza going on.

A common conception is that men are the main culprits, but women aren’t innocent either; many a personal trainer has laid pipe to a housewife while el señor was away at the office.

Don’t believe me? You don’t need to. Ask the New York Times. The newspaper reported that Latin American men are the second-most adulterous on the planet (after sub-Saharan Africans).

But why, you ask. Why do Latinos cheat more than, say, Caucasians?

Well, I’m not Latino, but I have cheated and lived in Latin America so I’m going to take a stab at this one.

Makes me qualified as anyone, I reckon.

 

Why Do Latinos Cheat?

Latinos are grounded quite solidly in “machismo.” This trait, internalized by men and tolerated by women, reinforces traditional gender roles and drives men to flaunt their manliness whenever an opportunity presents itself. This includes doing things like fighting (there’s a reason why boxing is so popular in Latin countries), cursing, drinking to excess and, of course, seducing beautiful women.

The movement known as “Feminism” didn’t quite catch on here as well as it did in North America and Western Europe so there’s never been much doubt cast on the historical roles of men and women. And, although this is changing in the region as more women join the workforce and are thus more autonomous, the need for a man to feel like a man is still very much alive.

In the West on the other hand, a man’s desire to exert his masculinity has been largely subdued and suppressed by a hypersensitive cultural narrative and media machine that condemns traditionally male behaviour. Look no further than modern television sitcoms, where the women are strong and aggressive and the men are docile buffoons. Indeed, traditional male behaviour — even something as innocuous as weightlifting — has fallen under the umbrella of “toxic masculinity”

I believe that North American men cheat less than Latinos not because they are inherently more loyal, but because they have been conditioned to be more afraid, both of their partner’s wrath, and of societal backlash.

Let’s take the time I cheated on a Latina. After a series of conversations, she forgave me, as did her friends and family.

And the time I cheated on an American girl? Everyone who was even vaguely connected to the relationship ostracized me, aside for my own family and a few close pals.

T’was heavy.

Of course, neither reaction was appropriate; cheating shouldn’t be met with such leniency nor with such obtuse exclusion. And, obviously, infidelity should not be used as a measure of manliness.

I also don’t mean to suggest that fear is the only thing keeping men in the United States from cheating. I’m only trying to guess why Latinos cheat more.

 

Conclusion

In my experience, Latinas have a much better understanding of why men cheat than American women. American women think that men cheat for the same reasons women cheat: because we felt a “connection” to someone else, or because we fell in love with someone else. Latin women adopt more of a “men are horny and that’s what they do” stance.

Latinas, for better or for worse, can more easily reconcile the differences between sex and love as they occur in a man’s brain. They grasp that a man can have sex with a woman without having an emotional connection, or without feeling anything for them at all, really. This means, for better or for worse, that women in Latin American countries have a higher tolerance for cheating. This is because the implications aren’t as catastrophic to them as they are to an American girl.

In machismo-driven cultures, men are constantly looking for ways to prove their masculinity. In a region where unemployment is high and many males workers are unskilled, there aren’t many outlets for this aside from sport and sex.

All this, accompanied by the fact that Latinos generally have a more passionate approach to love and life, it should come as no surprise that men step outside of their relationships every once in a while.

What do you think? Post your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!

Until next time,

Vance

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